Monday, June 24, 2013

How Stress Relief Tips Increase Anxiety by Billy Nafziger

The majority of stress relief tips lack substance and potency. Why is that? The disappointing reality is that most people lack the discipline to consistently perform these tips.
We are lazy. We do not focus. We have many distractions from family matters, business matters and social entanglements. Our lives become a never-ending "to do" list. A stress relieving exercise becomes another item on the list.
After a short time, we stop doing the exercises. Then subconsciously we start belittling ourselves. This self-criticism is what initially created the stress. As this cycle continues stress increases. Our life becomes a series of struggles.
We conclude that we need to give up doing stress relieving exercises.
That would be an error. The answer lies in doing specific exercises in a certain way. The outcome of this tactic should be involuntary relaxation of your muscles and brain. In doing these exercises, you must receive short-term and long-term benefits.
Short-term benefits would consist of relaxation, mental clarity, and a sense of relief and comfort. Long-term benefits would consist of inner strength, freedom from restrictive beliefs and profound confidence in your own abilities to deal with living.
Often stress relief tips tell you to relax, this boosts your stress level because it is so evident.
Of course we would relax if we knew how. Our thinking is saturated with the present situation and the thought of relaxing is ridiculous. What would drive us to change our situation if we would relax now? We think that we slack to much anyway. This isn't the right time to relax.
But as many researchers are finding out, our poor circumstances were created through decisions motivated by stressful thinking. We need inspired, creative thinking to change our life's position.
Again, we must find a specific exercise and do it a certain way.
As soon as we ridicule ourselves, our minds grow to be irritated and conflicted. So along with relaxing, we need to release unhelpful ideas regarding ourselves and replace them with self compassion. We need to give ourselves forgiveness and acceptance.
It's a common idea to look through the negative to the positive. Often, this leads to avoidance behaviors that do not serve us well. When we avoid our "stuff", the effect is always more stress.
One way to release the hold that the negative has on you, is to concentrate on the negative and the emotions that it produces until it naturally releases. Then adding a forgiving and compassionate series of thoughts will give you the stress relief for which you were looking.
The correct procedure for this to be effective will take some research and learning. Empty platitudes disguised as stress relief tips will be frustrating and stress building. Find a useful practice that can be done whenever your stress becomes uncomfortable.
Keep in mind that in this world you can depend on change. Situation evolve. Be prepared to help the circumstances change by using high-powered tools.
Laziness has now lost its hold and you are aligned with the capacity to overcome stress.


aliena josph said...

Many stress relief tips, although well intentioned, are powerless. Why is that? Regrettably many individuals don't posess the fortitude to do the exercises on a continual basis.

Bob Connolly said...

I would agree that we need to give ourselves forgiveness and acceptance. Without these, we don't feel happiness.

Bob - Mental Health Provider in Southern California

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